Monday, October 18, 2010
I couldn’t believe it ... another couple divorcing. Not on the cover of the magazines in the check out line, but in our community of friends. They had been married for 20 plus years but evidently he’d done a little cruising around. Are you kidding me? What was he thinking? Obviously he wasn’t.
The same scenario plays out over and over like it’s being read from a script borrowed from a movie set. Life rolls along smoothly for a few years but when things get tough and it kicks us around we tend to look for something to make us feel better. Pain is no fun and there’s something in us trying to avoid going through it. Going though usually spits us out tougher on the other side, but we want to dance around and find an easy way out.
The same tug to find the ultimate job drags people coast to coast with kids, dogs and UHauls. Just maybe this new company will appreciate us and understand how talented we are. Once the last box is unpacked and a routine sets in, we’re stunned to find out this job is not filling our deepest needs either. The reason is this; all jobs have one thing in common ... work.
Whether in a marriage, a business partnership, a job, or stuff we own, when things get a little worn or need some extra time and attention we start looking around at what everyone else has or does. Are we bored or do we think what we don’t have will make us happy? It started with Adam and Eve wanting that one thing.
The grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but guess what? It has to be mowed too. If you have to mow, you might as well mow your own.